Dealing With Homosexuality : Aakash Oberoi

Homosexuality is not a new phenomenon and has been rejected by Islam and other world religions as a perversion and a sin. Yet whereas in the past those who practiced homosexuality had mostly been either silent or marginalized, today we have gained wider acceptance and vocal support mostly due to sustained campaigning by gay rights groups to enhance their image and spread their appeal.
When we are covering topic of Dealing with Homosexuality so I’d like to directly go into the bulk that is ‘Dealing with it’ rather than stating more on what is homosexuality and other related issues. It’s more like an advisory article which will let you know how to deal with it.
It has two aspects of dealing. One is homosexual’s dealing with himself and second is, heterosexuals dealing with homosexuality. I’ll cover both the aspects.

1] Dealing with YourSelf as Queer:

People say it’s unfortunate, If you are thinking you are less or bad then don’t expect from others any appreciation or even good thoughts about you and it’s happening in whole world not just in India or others Asian countries. You respect yourself first! What do you mean by being fortunate? – being rich and having respect. If yes then Okkaay! But by being gay you can have that…Prove yourself! (Sleepovers and ‘ASL’s chat won’t contribute you anything)
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Whatever is responsible for making someone gay, bi or straight – THAT’S JUST THE WAY THEY ARE!
“I do believe that I was born with my homosexuality, and I'm fine with that! A lot of people think being gay or lesbian is a sin, and we will go to hell for it, but this is how I look at it... God makes everyone right? God made me, God made you, God made and continues to make everyone. Therefore if God made me gay, because this isn't some DECISION that I made up one day, then this is how I am suppose to live, and die; and I am proud to be gay.”

There's sometimes nothing you can say that will change some people - try not to let it get to you too much. And if people in your area are making life difficult for you, try to just stick with any friends who are on your side. You don't have to stay in the area when you're older - there are many parts of the world that are much more tolerant.

2] Dealing with Homosexual:

1. Use religion carefully
When it comes to accepting gay people it seems as though it is the hard line religious people that have the hardest time. learn about religion and spirituality from someone who has developed the qualities of love, compassion and wisdom and NOT someone who only has a good scriptural knowledge.

2. Realize they are still the same person
Your gay friend is still your friend. Your gay son is still your son. They are still the same person you loved for all those years, shared those memories with and relied on in times of hardship. The fact that they have revealed their sexuality to you does not mean they love you any less or that they have become a strange and different person.

3. Understand your fear
Being afraid is okay. It is natural to experience some fear at things we don’t understand. But choosing to be angry instead of dealing with our own problem is incorrect. It will never solve the issue. It will only make matters worse. When you are afraid of something you need to find out why and then address the problem. The same is true of this issue. Find out where your fear comes from and then find realistic steps to solving it.

4. Switch your perspective
Here is an example. Close your eyes and imagine the whole world was gay. Your parents are gay, your brothers and sisters are gay – gay is the normal. Now imagine that you are attracted to a member of the opposite sex and you know that everyone else is going to consider this to be dirty, sinful or shameful. You are the odd one out. Imagine the knots that develop in your stomach and the tightness that you feel in your throat because you are so stressed about “coming out”. How does that feel?

Now take it one step further and imagine that you tell your parents that you are a hetero and they react badly. Your own parents, the people who love you no matter what, tell you that you are disgusting. How does it make you feel? Not nice.
However you feel about homosexuality, you owe it to your friend to separate that issue from the homosexual. Do you understand that? If you don’t like homosexuality it doesn’t mean you can’t like the homosexual. I don’t like smoking but I still like my friends who smoke. I don’t like anger but I still like my friends who get angry. Try shifting your perspective and see what you can come up with.

Conclusion:

Gay people are people. They deserve the same respect that anyone else deserves. In my opinion, if we start being biased towards gays we may as well start buying slaves again. It is the same thing. Look at your fear, open your mind and use your religion to find a way to reach acceptance – NOT HATE.

- Akash Oberoi