Wednesday, 25 April 2012
Monday, 23 April 2012
Top 10 Break Up Songs (Sad)
Hallelujah! I am back with my series of songs ;) Break Up??
Ahem….Hottest topic in the tinsel town! ;) I believe, Songs play a crucial role in Break Up period…Songs make you to live that moment more clearly and perfectly with its sad music and heart-breaking words (LOL). Some people love to ENJOY this periode by falling tears some like to move on…I am not blaming to those who cry and live sad life for while or longer, I know it’s not right to live in past memories every time but sometimes its okay, Cuz This break up period is enjoyable if taken in right way.So here are my top 10 SAD Break Up Songs of English, dedicated to all those heart-broken and sad souls! :)
If You cry listening them, I am not the one to blame cuz’ I must accept while writing this I am going back in my past and I think my eyes are wet.
TRY ON YOUR OWN RISK!
(P.S. – Adele, All types of Justin, Beyonce did not get entry in this list)
So here I go.....
10. Try Sleeping With Broken Heart – Alicia Keys
Let me appreciate Alicia first, she never sounded so good to me even in happy beats but I just loved this track from the album ‘The Element of Freedom’.She says, If you never tried sleeping with broken heart so come and try my bed, Sleep on my bed and you can get it how does it feel to lonely and left out?R&B beats make you grove with music but those who can relate to it can listen to it by being serious.Perfectly suited for those who got betrayed by their BF.
My Fav. Lines:
“Even if you were a million miles away, I could still feel you in my bednear me,
touch me, feel me, And even in the bottom of the seaI can still hear inside my head,
Telling me, touch me, feel meAnd all the time you were telling me lies’’
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=srMBZiqNMaM
9. Behind These Hazel Eyes – Kelly Carkson
A song right after the break up. Like everything was so wonderful like picture perfect and nothing could go wrong BUT happened and Now you are turned in to pieces. It pains you a lot but HE can’t see that you are crying tears ‘Behind your hazel eyes.’ You want to shout but no one to hear….Kelly always sounds good to me.
My Fav. Lines:
“Here I am, once again, I'm torn into piecesCan't deny it, can't pretend, J
ust thought you were the oneBroken up, deep inside,
But you won't get to see the tears I cryBehind these hazel eyes’’
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yipoOY56MbM
8. Cup Of Coffee – Garbage
It happens in Love when You give your best and almost everything but other party fails to give you the same. You cared for him, his feelings, his cigarette but He is careless, You still keep hopes but on one fine day while taking Coffee he calls it off so normally without hesitation and you ??I accept I like Band Grabage for this song only..I don’t know even their other songs
My Fav. Lines:
“And no, of course, we can't be friends
Not while I'm still so obsessed
I want to ask where I went wrong
But don't say anything at all
It took a cup of coffee
To prove that you don't love me’’
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rh6r-_vrTcA
7. Undiscovered – Ashlee Simpson
Most Played Song EVER played in my mp3 player. It was my first choice after my all break ups and cried my heart out. I would call it ‘’Innocent Break Up Song’’. Ashlee starts it by clearing all the issues she is facing since HE LEFT. Song is so pleasant and at the end it makes you cry, perfect song while you are Treadmill in your gym and wanna do it passionately. It defines me and many other guys perfectly. Ashlee Simposn is with her best.
My Fav. Lines:
“When I'm in the dark and all aloneDreaming that you'll walk right through my door,
It's then I know my heart is wholeThere's a million reasons why I cry
Hold my covers tight and close my eyes'cause I don't want to be alone.’’
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aubT3QRubXg
6. Fade Into You – Mazzy Star (1993)
I just pitty those poor guys, who don’t know the band ‘Mazzy Star’. If you are one of them, they you missed Real Music. Fade into you is their best hit song ever from album So Tonight That I Might See.A perfect song for night or long drive. I bet, it will haunt you and you’ll love it. A lover is saying…. “Fade into you, Strange you never knew.’’ Perfect song for secret lovers.”
My Fav. Lines:
“You live your life, You go in shadows
You'll come apart and you'll go black
Some kind of night into your darkness
Colors your eyes with what's not there.
Fade into you, Strange you never knew”
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XucegAHZojc
5. Wish I Was Your Lover – Enrique Iglesias
I know people are clapping for me for mentioning hottest men of the world ‘Enrique’ but let’s clap for Song not for Singer. :)I am really not into Enrique but this song keeping me into him. Tilte of the song tells everything. He says I wish you were mine and I can’t just hide this feeling.Songs sounds like a regret song or being loser in love or innocent victim but makes me emotional all the time. Enrique sounds sexy even though he is sad and begging here ;)
My Fav. Lines:
“Don't try to run away
There's many things
I wanna sayNo matter how it ends
Just hold me when I tell you’’
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rSPO0TCCQGM
4. God Only Know – Orianthi
I wish she could have dedicated to her band owner Michael Jackson as being the lead guitarist for him. Still I Love Orianthi since her debut album ‘Believe’.This song is perfect heart breaking song. This song is so unfortunate in which your lover died or leave forever somewhere and you are left out ALONE and you even don’t get chance to say Goodbye. Why?? God Only Knows..I Can relate to it very well!
My Fav. Lines:
“In this this silent space, I close my eyes
I can hear you sayThat it's alright,
but my world's such an empty place tonight.
Cause I know that, it's all part of life.”
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vDENl7PZlN4
3. The Reason – Hoobastank
Did anyone say it’s happy moving on song? Give me a break cuz’ I don’t agree it’s kinda sad song which can bring tears so easily in your eyes. It’s sure-shot a regret song for all the things (wrong/bad) you’ve done to your guy and now you have guilt and You gotta leave. Don’t blame anyone cuz’ “THE REASON” is You! There can be many various perceptions about this song but this my way to present it and I found it interesting. Hoobastank done wonderful job. Perfect song to listen when you are going out for an evening out.
My Fav. Lines:
“I'm sorry that I hurt youIt's something
I must live with everydayAnd all the pain
I put you throughI wish I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
That's why I need you to hear’’
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fV4DiAyExN0
2. When You’re Gone – Avril Lavigne
She is not here cuz I adore Avril and love her music most but she knows how to make someone smile and cry. Getting serious, this is song is a master piece…It says all the things happening “When He’s Gone.’’Perfect song to cry your heart out and free it finally, More I talk about this song more I get emotional so let me wind up with this one!
My Fav. Lines:
“I've never felt this way before
Everything that I do reminds me of you
And the clothes you left, they lie on the floor
And they smell just like you, I love the things that you do”
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0G3_kG5FFfQ
1. I Love You – Sarah McLachlan
NO! It’s not a love song to feel happy. It’s a song which will bring Goosebumps and will make you fall from mountain so peacefully with tears, Not making extra comments, this is the truth. It’s about loving someone secretly and when you just hide your feelings for him everytime, You get the guts and go to him to say and he turns you speechless!You wait for that perfect day but that day never comes!Sarah McLachlan is real talent and I treat her like Goddess of Music. ‘Live version’ of this song is amazing. MUST LISTEN! I turn speechless when I listen this; it takes me 5-10 mins more to get back normal from the effect of this song.
My Fav. Lines:
“Oh and every time I'm close to you , There's too much I can't say
And you just walk away, And I forgot to tell you I love you
And the night's too long And cold here without you
I grieve in my condition For I cannot find the words to say I need you so’’
Youtube Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=itBgQWVsyk0
So these are my top 10…there are many songs which was tough to short list but I have to done that as I was not focusing on singer just on the song and its lyrics and meaning. Hope You enjoyed. If you are going from breakup, listen to these all songs will help you a lot :)
Thanks will come back with another new category of Break Up Songs.
Till then Be Heart Broken ;)
- Nakshatra
Sunday, 22 April 2012
Is Milk Really Healthy for You?
Is Milk Really Healthy for You? Learn the Facts
"Milk is a deadly poison," according to the Dairy Education Board. In fact, you'll find dozens of articles about the purported evils of this popular beverage. One claim, for example, is that milk from cows contains cancer-causing hormones and dairy industry dollars have kept that fact bottled up. All of which may leave you second-guessing your next sip.
However, I've found that most men thrive on milk, whether their goal is to lose fat or build muscle. So to be sure it's safe, I've investigated all the anti-milk claims, sifting through the research while also turning a critical eye to pro-milk propaganda. After all, The result: all your milk questions, answered
Is Milk a Fat-Burning Food?
Maybe. In a 6-month study, University of Tennessee researchers found that overweight people who downed three servings a day of calcium-rich dairy lost more belly fat than those who followed a similar diet minus two or more of the dairy servings.
In addition, the researchers discovered that calcium supplements didn't work as well as milk. Why? They believe that while calcium may increase the rate at which your body burns fat, other active compounds in dairy products (such as milk proteins) provide an additional fat-burning effect.
Of course, the key to success is following a weight-loss diet to begin with. After all, downing your dairy with a box of doughnuts is no way to torch your gut.
Does It Build Muscle?
Absolutely. In fact, milk is one of the best muscle foods on the planet. You see, the protein in milk is about 20 percent whey and 80 percent casein. Both are high-quality proteins, but whey is known as a "fast protein" because it's quickly broken down into amino acids and absorbed into the bloodstream. That makes it a very good protein to consume after your workout.
Casein, on the other hand, is digested more slowly. So it's ideal for providing your body with a steady supply of smaller amounts of protein for a longer period of time—like between meals or while you sleep. Since milk provides both, one big glass gives your body an ideal combination of muscle-building proteins
Skim or Whole?
It depends on your taste. While you've probably always been told to drink reduced-fat milk, the majority of scientific studies show that drinking whole milk actually improves cholesterol levels, just not as much as drinking skim does.
One recent exception: Danish researchers found that men who consumed a diet rich in whole milk experienced a slight increase in LDL cholesterol (six points). However, it's worth noting that these men drank six 8-ounce glasses a day, an unusually high amount. Even so, their triglycerides--another marker of heart-disease risk—decreased by 22 percent.
The bottom line: Drinking two to three glasses of milk a day, whether it's skim, 2 percent, or whole, lowers the likelihood of both heart attack and stroke—a finding confirmed by British scientists.
If you're dieting, the lower-fat option is an easy way to save a few calories. When it comes to building muscle, though, whole milk may be your best choice: Scientists at the University of Texas medical branch in Galveston found that drinking whole milk after lifting weights boosted muscle protein synthesis—an indicator of muscle growth—2.8 times more than drinking skim did.
By: Aruzu Khan
NOT TOO NEAR , NOT TOO FAR
NOT TOO NEAR , NOT TOO FAR.............
Despite talk of how important distance is for a healthy relationship , too much of it can stretch ties to breaking point , while an overdose of cloying togetherness can be nauseating .
Overheard at the Delhi Gymkhana recently , a conversation between two women :
"Some things . much like husbands , are good from far , but far from good ...." This profound statement sent both friends into paroxysms of laughter .......
They may have been joking but "good from far" set me thinking on distance and relationships.In the most intimate of ties , between a husband and wife , is it important to maintain a certain distance ? Does familiarity really breed contempt ? Should you keep a bit of yourself away from even the one closest to you , a lover or a husband ? And should doing that make you feel guilty ?
There are couples who are so much into each other that there's no detail too intimate to discuss and no rule too sacrosanct to be broken. They present a united front to the world---sound like each other , repeat the same anecdotes and jokes and over time , may even start looking like each other ! They knew each other's deepest secrets from the past and there are no more mysteries to unravel.....
Then there asre couples who agree to carve out enough space for each other and steer so far clear that over time they become strangers and address the world from their own separate individual spaces , with no trace of togetherness.Over time they forget the art of communication and the distance between them keeps growing .They are fearfully polite to each other ; doing and saying all the right things .Privacy is an unspoken commitment and over time they even lose whatever curiosity they may have had about each other.That's when they start saying , "It seems I'm living with a stranger ! "For , over the years , instead of growing up together , they have grown away from each other.
Very seldom does one come across a couple that has found and maintained the right amount of distance from each other .Two people who are able to accord each other the regard and respect that distance alone can maintain , but familiarity tends to trample .A man , who after years of marriage can still look at his wife with wonder and appreciation , and a woman who despite the intimacy of the relationship, can still be bashful and tenderly caring . Such a couple not just respects the space they give each other , but is also careful to carve out their own "Us" time and space .
Despite all talk of how important distance is for a healthy relationship , too much of it can stretch ties to breaking point . On the other hand , an overdose of cloying togetherness can be nauseating as well after a while .Who want's to live in another's pocket ? Rather , it is essential to create pockets of retreat or solitude within a relationship , areas you can withdraw in to a jiffy when the need arises .These could be to do with a hobby , friends, a holiday taken with friends or even alone.
The tricky part is being able to maintain just the right distance from your partner -not too near , and yet , not too far .There's a time for advancing and a time for retreating in a relationship , much like on the battlefield .
Distance does lend charm , an enhancement.And distance needn't be actual physical separation ; all it means is not being overtly familiar or taking your partner for granted .Distance helps create and maintain a veneer of romance even while imparting dignity to individuals as well as to the relationship .The effort to earn and give due respect requires a certain discipline , and maintaining that discipline is a prerequisite for a healthy relationship .Give your partner the same consideration as you would any other respected acquaintance ; be generous with your "Sorrys" and "Thank yous".Maintain a dignity and decency even in the most private spaces between you two .
An aunt's favourite trick was to affix a respectful "ji" to a spouse's name and to address him with "Aap" rather than "Tum" or "Tu". Try shouting at someone you call "Aap" or "ji" . "You will be brought up short ". She has conciously created a respectful distance .Another lady , even after 30 years of marriage , still squeals in affront if her husband walks into the room while she's changing .As a result , she has been able to keep alive they mystique that keeps the romantic juices flowing by consciously creating a private space for her body . Well , we could go on ....there will certainly be as many tricks as people out there in successful relationships .....
But the long and short of it is that while it's important to keep a bit of yourself away just for you , it is equally important not to allow distances to grow exponentially .The most successful partnerships are those that maintain this "near-far" balance best . Near enough to feel together and far enough to remain the mystique .....
- by Pankrut Sethi
Health Benefits of Masturbation
A new survey from adult product peddler AdamandEve.com reveals that 27 percent of Americans admit to masturbating once or twice a week.
That number seems suspiciously low to us, especially since
science has shown that being master of your domain can provide additional feel-great benefits. (Also because the people surveyed were browsing an adult toy website.) “Masturbation is part of a healthy sex life,” says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist. “It’s totally safe and harmless. It’s healthier than brushing your teeth every day.”
And just as brushing your teeth should be a regular occurrence, so too should be cleaning your pipes. Here are 5 reasons to take matters into your own hands right now. (You’re welcome.)
It prevents cancer.
A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Disease-causing toxins build up in your urogenital tract and when you rub one out, you flush the bad guys out of your system, says Brame.
It makes you harder.
As you age, you naturally lose muscle tone … even down there. Regular sex or masturbation works out your pelvic floor muscles to prevent erectile dysfunction and incontinence. “It keeps the angle of your dangle perky,” says Brame. Aim to (ahem) arrive 3 to 5 times a week for rock-solid results.
It helps you last longer.
Taking yourself to palm prom may help you stretch your sack sessions. “[Masturbating] an hour before a date will give you more control,” says Brame. Train yourself by timing how long it takes you to orgasm, suggests Ava Cadell, Ph.D., founder of loveologyuniversity.com. If it usually takes two minutes solo, try for three next time. Or count how many strokes you need to get to your happy place. If you’re spurting after 50, shoot for 60. “Most men can double the number of strokes and the time within one month,” Cadell says. Practice makes perfect, right?
It ups your immunity.
Ejaculation increases levels of the hormone cortisol, says Jennifer Landa, M.D., a specialist in hormone therapy. Cortisol, which usually gets a bad rap as a havoc-wrecking stress hormone, actually helps regulate and maintain your immunity in the small doses. “Masturbation can product the right environment for a strengthened immune system,” she says.
It boosts your mood.
Masturbating releases a slew of feel-good neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin that lift your spirits, boost your satisfaction, and activate the reward circuits in your brain. “An orgasm is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available,” says Brame. “A brain scan of someone having an orgasm looks like a heroin addict
By: Aruzu Khan (Kariaz)
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is not so much an act as an attitude. As an act, forgiveness raises the forgiver above the forgiven; it empowers the one even as it disempowers the other. I know this isn’t the way we normally think about forgiveness, but explore this with me a bit. If you don’t like what I have to say, you can always stop reading.
The only way someone can hurt you is if you have given them power over you. When my nephew was a toddler and I refused him candy as we stood in the checkout line at our local market, he would often cry out, "I hate you. I hate you." While this might have been a bit embarrassing, it wasn't hurtful. He had no power over me, and his assessment of my character meant nothing to me. While you might argue that he should have apologized for his outburst, there is no need for me to forgive him for it. He just did what any three-year-old kid would do when forced to stand in an aisle stacked from his head to his toe with candy.
Now imagine a different scenario. You're standing with a friend who is under the misunderstanding that you have done her some harm. She too cries out, "I hate you, I hate you." Because you are innocent and because you know that she is misinformed you will most likely forgive her for her outburst, especially when she realizes her error and asks for your forgiveness. The difference here is that you have power over her. She was in the wrong, even if she didn't know it, and she may have hurt you with her anger. You bestow forgiveness upon her the way a governor may bestow a pardon on a criminal. Your friend humbles herself before you in asking for forgiveness, and you, with noblesse oblige, graciously grant her wish.
Forgiveness is yours to give, and in giving it you assert your superiority over the one forgiven.
Bear with me for a third scenario. Imagine you have hurt someone you love. He is angry with you, and his anger is making your life miserable. So you apologize, humbly and sincerely. Yet you expect something for this act of contrition. You expect to be forgiven. Your apology, no matter how sincere, is still a tactic. You want to be free from the guilt and the anxiety the other’s anger produces in you, and so you own up to your mistake and apologize. If forgiveness is forthcoming you are freed from the weight of your guilt and free to reengage with the other person as an equal.
But what happens if you ask for forgiveness and forgiveness is not forthcoming? You get angry. Now you are the one who feels slighted. Now you are the one owed an apology. Now you are the one who has been raised, at least in your own mind, to the moral high ground: you occupy the superior status of the wronged.
When we focus on forgiveness as an act it all too often becomes a tactic, and a manipulative one at that. But when we understand forgiveness as an attitude something else altogether happens.
I expect to be hurt. Not all the time and not by everyone, but often enough by those I love that it isn’t a shock—even when the cause of the hurt is a surprise. I expect to be hurt not because I think people are mean and hurtful, but because I know that people are most often victims of their own inner turmoil, and this turmoil just erupts now and again in ways that hurt me.
While I know there are people who set out to deliberately hurt others, I don’t think I personally know anyone like this. I have some troublesome acquaintances and even friends, but none of them are sociopaths or psychopaths. They are just people like me. Often we are caught up in the madness of our lives in such a way that now and again we do something hurtful — often and especially to those we love. Welcome to the major leagues.
Does this mean I don’t have to forgive them? On the contrary, it means that not forgiving them isn’t even an option. This is what I mean by forgiveness as an attitude. Forgiveness isn’t a tactic; it is your default level of engagement. You forgive because you know we are all trapped in our own madness over which we have no control. Not forgiving simply locks you into additional layers of suffering that have no beneficial results at all.
Am I saying that you should forgive everybody for everything they do? What about the person who mugs you or rapes you or murders your child? Are you supposed to forgive that person as well?
If I say, “yes,” I am talking theory, and you should reject my ideas out of hand. It would be absurd of me to dismiss your anger and your grief over tragedies of this magnitude, and I won’t do that. While it might be in your best interest to forgive even these evil people, I would not ask you to do so. There are no limits to forgiveness, but there are limits to forgiving. Follow your heart, not my philosophy.
If I say, “no,” then we have to decide when it is right to forgive and when it is wrong to forgive. But there is no way I can define this for you. You simply have to discover it for itself, and then have compassion on yourself when you do.
Could you forgive Charles Roberts, the man who shot up a one-room schoolhouse killing five Amish girls and wounding five others, if one of those girls was your daughter? Their Amish parents did. I can’t say what I would do. Knowing that Roberts was the victim of his own madness would help me move on without having to bury myself in hatred of the killer, but is that the same as forgiveness? Perhaps it is. But I am not going to tell you that you should or should not forgive Mr. Roberts. That is not my call to make. What I can say is that I will have compassion for you regardless of the choice you make.
But how many of us face this level of horror? So let’s consider a lesser tragedy. During my college life and my little stint with a NGO, I have interacted with some families of suicides. These family members are often very angry: with themselves — “I should have seen this coming, and never should have left him alone;” with each other — “How did you not see this coming? How could you have possibly left him alone?” and most of all, with the loved one who committed suicide — “Why didn’t he let us know how bad things were? Why didn’t he reach out to us for help? Why did he do this to us? He’s gone, but we have to live with this horror for the rest of our lives!”
All of this anger assumes a level of premeditation that most likely didn’t exist. If you could have seen how desperate a loved one was, you would have seen it and taken action regarding it. If the person suffering so much pain that her only outlet is death could have seen another way out, she would have taken it. Most of the hurts we experience are not meant for us. They are by-products of the suffering others are feeling. The truth is that most of the pain and suffering we feel isn’t directed at us at all.
I don’t think you can escape suffering, nor should you want to. Life is what it is: a blend of joy and sorrow, happiness and horror. Forgiveness won’t change that. But it can free you from dragging the sorrow into your moments of joy, and allowing the horror to corrode your moments of happiness, and that is no small thing at all. If we had more space here we would delve into the nature of self and you would see that you aren’t who you think you are, and when you stop thinking you are who you are not, forgiveness happens: no method, no steps, no willful thinking or feeling one way or another; just a freeing of Self from the confines of self and realizing that freedom from self manifests as forgiveness. But we don’t have space for all that. Just this:
Imagine you are out boating alone on a lake. A fog rolls in and you decide to row to shore for safety’s sake.
As you do so, you notice another boat heading straight toward you. You assume the fog is blinding the occupants of the other boat to your presence, and you call out for them to turn aside lest they ram into you and perhaps capsize your boat. The others do not respond and their boat picks up speed as it homes in on you. You begin to panic. No matter which way you turn they seem intent on hitting you. You shout for them to look out, but they don’t, and you are hit hard. Anger bursts through you and you scream at the others, leaning into their boat to make your point all the more strong. It is then that you realize the other boat is empty. Wind and current, not malicious intent, drove the other boat into yours. What happens to your anger?
- by Rachit Agarwal
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