Gays v/s Family and Society

In this article, I would like to discuss the concerns of gays related to their family members and the society.  See, first of all the name “Gays” has been identified by the society only.  As far as I am concerned, we are all are human beings and each and every one of has full rights to live in this society.  Gays is nothing but a name identified for the guys who have attraction towards a specific or same kind of sex.

So, Gays need not feel guilty for their being.  Instead, they should feel free to live in this society and show to the world that they can live.

I would like to point out, while in the FB, many guys have been sharing their concern about the family and society.  I wanted to point out that each and every human being have their feelings, behaviours etc.  Often a question raises “Why my family and the society is not accepting my stand?”  You may be right in your view.  I completely agree with you.  But when it is being looked from their perspective, the following issues are there:

1. As a parents, they might be concerned about your feelings and future.  It is quite common.  They wanted to see you in a bigger position rather than in a position where they do not want to see you. Ok.  This is one side.
2. As far as society is concerned, they look differently because it has been a normal if a boy loves girl something like that.  The society looks at gays strangely because of the fact that it is quite uncommon in India even though the laws are approving it.  The biggest factor is that no one can understand an individual gay’s inner feelings or heart other than u yourself.  Even your parents can’t understand. Ok.

When we are talking about this, the family would be giving more preference to their status of living and thinking that gay habits are something abnormal and not acceptable.  This is also one of the factor that why family is looking at gays differently and handling them differently.

On the other hand, both family and society are not yet come to the stage to accept gays even though there are many organizations working for their cause.

So, we cannot blame them also as they also have their own feelings or opinions.

How gays should react to the situation:

The first thing you have to do just relax and learn to accept the fact that family and society will be like this. So, you need not worry or brooding over it.  Confidence level is more important than any other thing.  You need not react negatively to the family or the society.

Secondly, most of the guys used to share their feelings to other friends knowing or unknowingly in excitement and at times it turns out against them only.

The points that the so called “Gays” (Human beings - guys) to remember:

Even the family and society think of u differently, there might be a reason or some pressures ok.
You need to understand the whole life cycle and learn to live accordingly without any hurts of feelings, or misunderstanding or something.  We are all human beings and we have our own prestige, feelings, heart, mind, power, talents, skills everything.

One important factor is that you have to keep in mind that: DO YOU HAVE THE ABILITY OR CAPACITY OR COURAGE TO LIVE WITH YOUR MALE PARTNER TILL LAST?

Note: I will discuss further on the psychological and behavioural patterns later.

- John Max