Tuesday, 9 April 2013

Homosexuality And Religion

Homosexuality And Religion

Homosexuality and Hinduism--
Currently, the issue of homosexuality in Hinduism is controversial, especially amongst Hindus in countries where homosexuality is generally accepted. Hindu views of homosexuality are varying and diverse, in part because the accepted Hindu religious texts do not explicitly mention homosexuality.

Homosexuality is also a complex matter in Hinduism because of the many types of religious life. In general, "twice-born" Hindus are prohibited from homosexual acts (maithunam pumsi), such as in Manusmrti 11:174, which mentions both men and women.

On the other hand, the famous Kama Sutra states that homosexual sex "is to be engaged in and enjoyed for its own sake as one of the arts." In general, then, the Hindu evaluation of homosexuality depends heavily on the context.
Background

Homosexuality has an ancient history in India. Ancient texts like Rig Veda (which dates back around 1500 BC), sculptures and vestiges depict sexual acts between women as revelations of a feminine world where sexuality was based on pleasure and fertility.

There are great differences amongst Hindus as to whether homosexuality is acceptable behavior. The debate takes place against the background of Hinduism's teachings on love, sex, and marriage, which might be summarized as follows:

In Hinduism, love is regarded as an eternal force. It is seen as devotion between two people, whether romantic or platonic. Hindus believe love and devotion are important in attaining Moksha or Liberation from the cycle of rebirths.
Erotic desire or Kama in Hinduism was deemed as one of the most legitimate pleasures on earth (thus accounting for the vast numbers of erotic treatises, poetry and sensuous sculptures of ancient India). This however did not mean that lascivious behavior was promoted. Premarital sex in Hinduism is frowned upon and extramarital sex is prohibited. Sex was promoted within the context of a loving couple - usually heterosexual. On the other hand extremely ascetic schools of thought would have viewed sex as a distraction from the pursuit of Moksha.

Marriage in Hinduism is said to fulfill three functions: Prajaa, Dharma, and Rati. In marriage, Prajaa is progeny for perpetuation of one's family, Dharma is fulfillment of responsibilities, and Rati is companionship as friends and mutual pleasure as lovers. These three functions are given in the Dharma Shastras, books that are not considered to be religiously binding within Hinduism.

In Hinduism many of the divinities are androgynous and some change gender to participate in homoerotic behavior. In the popular Hindu epic Mahabharata, a transgender character named Sikhandin plays a pivotal role (5.191-5).

In modern India transgendered men known as Hijras have sex with men. They religiously identify as a separate third sex, with many undergoing ritual castration. In Hindu thought a man who penetrates a Hijra is not defined as gay. And in the Kama Sutra sex acts involving homosexuality are regarded in some castes permissible while not in other castes.
Opposing Hindu Viewpoints on Homosexuality

Most of the debate on homosexuality within Hinduism is centered on these three teachings, and how proponents and opponents of homosexuality interpret these teachings.

Opponents of homosexuality argue that:

Romantic love is only natural between a man and a woman, and it is impossible for two men or two women to experience the same form of love.
Since romantic love is only possible between a man and a woman, sex between two men or two women can only be the product of lust, and lust is wrong; therefore homosexual activities are wrong.
One of the three functions of marriage is Prajaa, the progeny for perpetuation of one's family. A homosexual couple cannot procreate, and thus cannot be married.
Premarital and extramarital sex are wrong, and because homosexuals cannot marry, they should not engage in sexual relationships.

Proponents of homosexuality argue:

Nowhere in the Hindu sacred texts is romantic love excluded to all but a man and woman, so there are no religious grounds to make a statement to the contrary.
Since homosexuals can experience romantic love, homosexual sexual relationships are not all the product of lust.
The three functions of marriage are given in the Dharma Shastras, books that are not binding to Hindus, and thus Prajaa is not a determining factor in Hindu marriages. Even if the three functions of marriage were binding in terms of marriages, Prajaa may be interpreted in a number of ways that do not involve procreation at all. Thus homosexuals should be allowed to marry.
Sexual expression within a loving relationship is encouraged by Hinduism because it is not an expression of lust, but an expression of love and devotion to each others' happiness. Therefore, homosexuals in loving relationships (i.e. marriage) should be allowed to express their love sexually.


Courtesy : www.religionfacts.com/homosexuality/hinduism.htm

What is sex therapy ? What happens in a sex therapy session ? - Pankrut Kapoor

 Sex therapy is a new -age boon to problematic relations . It is very interesting form of relationship counselling that focuses specifically on intimacy and sexual problems . A sex therapist can be a psychiatrist , psychologist, a family or marriage counsellor . There are specific programmes designed to help couples and individuals work through their sex related issues . The role of a therapist is not to change someone's sex drive or orientation , but to help them maximise their potential for satisfaction and guide them towards safe comfortable and satisfying sex that suits their libido and libido poweress .


by Pankrut Kapoor

Sunday, 12 August 2012

TOP 10 WAYS OF DOING ''GAY WELFARE''


Many of you have come to me and asked ''I also want to do something for gay activism, how to start?''. Many of you want to join us in the battle to fight for gay rights but don't know how to do it exactly? So here are TOP 10 ways for Gay welfare.

(These are the 10 ways which I am preferring and these are the best ways to begin)
There are 2 factors of doing we
lfare one is Social Network (Virtual World) and Other is Field Work (Real World)

1) Be Yourself
I don't mean COME OUT. But when you make an other ID (Gay ID) Be yourself..try to be good human being with positive energy and spread happiness around. Don't spread porn material nor decorate your profile with sex talks, Because people are watching you and positive profile attracts people who need happiness :)
It will also help you to be a good human being. So EVERY SINGLE THING STARTS FROM YOURSELF!

2) Make friends and Share good thoughts!
Make good friends and discuss ongoing issues related to the community with them. Write Statuses, Share posts in the favor of gay activism and homosexuality.
You may not get LIKES to your statuses as a sexy status might get but many are watching it and one day they will start following your views. It happens, I proved!

3) Join Gay welfare groups & Pages (online)
Join Gay groups and pages on Facebook, Google, Yahoo which are into welfare, friendship and entertainment. Go there and interact with people there. Express your views on exciting posts and if nothing is exciting then you make it happen. Try avoiding culture of growing sex seeking groups. I see many guys started their welfare from facebook and even I started my work from We 4 You. So facebook groups are the best options to start with.

4) Join Local Gay Friendly NGO and Groups
Check out gay NGOs and groups nearby to your area and connect to them and you'll be on perfect track towards welfare. If there is no any gay group in your town you can try setting up a small one by you and your friends. :)

5) Participate in Prides, Queers events.
No feeling is as proud as being in a Pride March..Go with mask if you want cuz one more gay will be counted in. All metro cities as well as small areas like Patna, Madurai started having Pride marches so participated in pride march around you and other LGBT related events which will develop your confidence and knowledge. If there is any protest campaign for fighting for the rights then participate. Many events are inside in safe atmosphere and without media coverage.

6) Buy and Promote Gay Art.
Prefer, Promote and Buy Gay Arts. Gay themed movie, literature, other artwork.
Read gay magazines, books to develop your knowledge about latest happening in gay movement of the world. Watch gay themed movies. Share them and spread them to your people.

7) Help & Support Needy People
There are many people who seek for help and support, online as well as in reality. Guide them with the best possible solution. Many times they need someone to share pain and cry, Give them shoulder and there you will learn human emotions and psychology of the LGBT people and it will help you in the future activism

8) Increase Contacts in the Community.
Get in touch with other gay right activists and see how they are working. Join them and discuss things. You might get a big push and your voice will be heard. Being with others your teamwork skill will be enhanced and you will develop your skills by seeing others work :)

9) Media appearance
If you are out then face media and participate in many shows which talk about homosexuality. Tell people and face them. Impact is more. Many times media is agree to hide ur face and name from camera.

10) Feel Proud of Yourself!
Feel good about yourself..Accept your self and your role and then never back down by becoming victim of ANYTHING. THIS IS NOT THE WAY TO BE FAMOUS!!
THIS ROAD IS DIFFICULT TO TRAVEL BUT FULL OF ADVENTURES AND EXCITEMENT. EVERY MOMENT IS NEW AND GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO LEARN. MANY TIMES YOU HAVE TO SACRIFICE YOUR FAMILY AND LOVE LIFE BUT DON'T BACK DOWN CUZ' WHEN YOU STEP IN HERE THERE IS NO ''U'' TURN :)
Fighting for the community and equality is great thing. I feel like a freedom fighter so Get Ready to be a pert of history!

Goodluck to all future activists, Have happening journey!
Wishing you the Best, Let's Fight and Let's Light It Up! :)
- Nakshatra

Friday, 8 June 2012

WAR OF WORDS : Difference between Cross Dressers, Drags, She males & Lady Boys


After My 1st’ Article about Different Gender Identity Someone suggested me to write about difference between Cross Dressers, Drags, She males & Lady Boys. So here I am…
 These words bring lot of glitters, tinsels, hard make up and confusion about different roles and behaviors. So let’s see them closely and identify unique features of each set separately. 

Cross Dresser: It is a person mostly a man who dresses as a woman for the sake of fetish, fashion or his own comfort level. Conflict arises when even a man uses a simple woman clothing article like a scarf or handkerchief would fall under this category or not? Answer is not there! But mostly a person who wears women’s clothing, accessories and footwear is known as Cross Dresser. Sometimes straights also feel good by cross dressing.

  Drags: Drag is the one who wears the clothes of other gender to resemble with it. Like a man wears women’s clothing to portray him as a woman. This is mostly present in arts like cinema, dramas, and paintings. It started from Shakespeare′s Globe Theater where Males played the roles of Females in the acts and dramas due to no availability of female artists. Drag performance is not related to sex or vulgarity, It’s for entertainment, humor and can be an adjustment by putting males in the female roles because no availability female artists. It’s not necessary that Drags are Gays, Many times Straight Males be Drags to earn money.
There are two terms related to this word –
      
      Drag Queen: A biological Male who dresses as a Female for stage performance, entertainment or drag shows to earn money or for beauty contests with feminine expressions and behavior. It’s not necessary that he’s gay he can be a straight and acts in certain way just to earn his salary and may not have feminine behavior in his day to day life.

    Drag King: A biological Female who dresses as a Male with masculine attitude for the same reasons as above. This is not so popular and appreciated as Drag Queen.

Drag show is a vibrant part of nightlife and most popular in New York, Chicago and Las Vegas.

“So the person who cross dress for his/her own comfort is known as Cross dresser and person who dresses for his/her profession and to earn money is known as Drag.”

She males: A male-to-female transgendered person is referred to as ′transgender woman' or She-Male with male genitalia and mostly augmented female breasts. They dress, behave and act like a Female and they have kept their penis.

She males have different names throughout the world:
Lady Boys : Asia
Kathoey : Thailand
Newhalf : Japan
So She males, Lady Boys, Kathoey, Newhalf are different names given to Transgender. If they change their genders then they will be known as Transsexuals.

Transphobia (The irrational fear and hatred towards all those individuals who fall under this section) brings massive discrimination, violence and unbalanced society by giving less respect to these gender identities.

WAR OF WORDS : Difference Between Transgender, Transsexual, Intersex & Hijra.



There is lot of confusion among the people about these terms. Many of us don’t know the exact difference between these sexual minorities. So let’s clear the confusion and see the unique behavior of each set separately.

Transgender: 'Transgender' describes a person who dresses, behaves or presents themselves in a way that is different from their actual gender norm.
Transgenders are mostly men/women who want to keep their original body parts and without changing the gender they enjoy privileges of being a person of other gender.
Transgender is one who portrays himself as woman WITHOUT changing his gender and vice-versa.
It includes: Cross Dressers, Drag Queens/Kings, etc…
(A male-to-female transgendered person is referred to as ′transgender woman′ and a female-to-male transgendered person is referred to as ′transgender man′).

Transsexual: “Trans’’ means "to cross" and the “Sexual” part refers to the “physical body’’. To cross/change the gender there is only one option - ‘Sex Change Surgery’. It also implies surgery, since that is the only way to change the gender.
Transsexual is one who converts into male to female by changing his gender and vice-versa.

Intersex: It’s known as third gender in many cultures.
An intersex person is one who is born with or develops mixed sexual physiological abnormality.
He/She has born with both male and female biological organs and/or genitalia and it is difficult to identify the actual gender of that person. According to statistics, at least one in 2,000 children is intersex.

Hijra: Hijras (eunuchs) are born as biological males who reject their ′masculine′ identity in due course of time to identify either as women, or not-men, or in-between man and woman, or neither man nor woman.
They fall under category ‘Third Gender’, It’s more close to Transsexual concept but mostly eunuch prefers to be fall under Third Gender rather than any specific gender identitiy.
So this are the large differences between these 4 unique gender identity so treat them with love and respect cuz They are just “Born This Way’’.

Wednesday, 9 May 2012

WAR OF WORDS: Words Losing Decency?


DISCLAIMER: SOME READERS MAY FIND MY ARTICLE BOLD & NASTY BUT IT MAKES SENSE AND I HAVE WRITTEN IT FROM MY OBSERVATION. NO HARD FEELINGS.

When I entered in this gay world, it was very difficult for me to understand and most importantly to remember some of the terms/words which are almost universal in this world now. Some of the words which I learned from childhood mean something else. Objection is not against those words but in the context which they get used and how decently people are using them.

Some popular Words which are now visible everywhere in this world,

1) Top – Upper part. Above. Up. Upside. Fcuker??
I learned ‘Top’ is upper part or up and always used it while framing sentence in the context of Sky and when one of my gay friend told me ‘Top means Fcuker’ I asked but why? Top means he always keeps his partner down and remains up while having sex? Oh, he should buy KAMSUTRA Book lol :P
And we got many proud ‘TOPS’ who say ‘’You know I am Top not a bottom’’. They say it like they can convert into a heterosexual guy at next moment!

2) Bottom – Lower part. Down. Below. Downside. Bitch?? (this is how many treat them)
Like top I also learned word Bottom in the school in the context of a juice jar or a water-well. And after getting term TOP, I am clever enough to know the one who gets fcuked is Bottom but always at bottom? (while getting respect too?)

3) Versatile – I am a VERSATILE guy since my childhood :D Hey, take it in exact dictionary meaning!! This word disappointed me a lot. ‘Versatile simply means a person with various skills, talents & achievements.’ In gay context they got 2 talents and abilities of fcuking & getting fcuked!! Really? Wooow great skills. Big difference in actual meaning and gay world meaning. I feel awkward when my mom praises me infront of guests by saying “My son is Versatile’’ and I feel like asking her “How do you know that?’’ :O

4) Double-Decker – BEST BUS. This is what I know about this word. I realized the gay meaning of this word this year only when another gay friend explained it to me. Double-Decker is BEST Bus which I adore, I love to sit in the TOP part and that to in the front and enjoy city while traveling and taking air on me. Even I also had a double-decker bus toy in my childhood. But here in this case ‘Double Decker means Versatile only’. My reaction was pretty confused and I ask my friend use slangs or cheap words if you want while explaining but I need to know how this word can be a synonym to versatile?? He said in “Double-decker you get two options, TOP part of the vehicle and BOTTOM part of the vehicle to have a FUN journey. Choice is yours! ;)

5) Size – Measurement. But Of WHAT?? Figure? No… Then? In early GAY days some strangers on fb used to ask, “What’s your size?’’. I used to ask them humbly, “Tee-shirt ka ya shoes ka??” Ohh! Innocent Me :P
Then people got to tell me of your dick, and I still said “Sorry, I never counted!” (with ‘^_^’ smiley). Being serious, I found this concept very cheap, You got no business of knowing how long someone got? or tiny one. ‘Jaisa bhi hai, Unka hai’. I just protest this concept of knowing size and I like the way My one BOTTOM friend deals with it, when people ask him SIZE?, He says “Look, I am Bottom so mind business with my ass not with my dick!’’ :D

6) Place – Space. Area. Home. Locality. Fcuk Place??
“Hey dude you got Place?’’ “Yes! I live in Home”
Place has only got restricted to SEX. The actual meaning of this word is losing its essence or already lost? Guy having place is the most successful person and with High Demand. Instead of talking about Home décor, Orphanage, Old-age homes people seek to know more about this PLACE.
“You know? I can’t arrange a place, I told you I don’t have place.’’……… “Are you Homeless?” Level of decency needs to be on it’s PLACE!

7) CAM - Customer Application Module?? Camera?? Ohh you mean…Webcam? Yes I got!
“Good then C2C?”. “Customer to Customer?”. “No, Cam to Cam?” Heard about M2M. Wonder how C2C happens? :)
CAM? This 3 alphabets means wanna have sex online? They made it in short way actually to save typing effort and asking for sex by saying so many things. If ‘YES’ is answer you can expect a big nasty session (If the guy is worth of your expectation). These words are enough to show a person’s nature and level of thinking. Skype has damaged its image because of that.

Some of these words are also popular in heterosexual online world too so blame is not upon gay community only. But as human being I feel bizarre when I see communication getting such a cheap turn, where people are still interested to each-other’s INNER THINGS not in INNER Heart and feelings…
Complaint is not against words but the way they are getting used by people. Such words are losing decency and becoming phenomenon throughout the world.
- Nakshatra

Tuesday, 8 May 2012

WAR OF WORDS: Straight Profile Vs. Gay Profile

By respecting all privacy concerns I am writing this…


I often feel offended when people ask me.. Do you have any NORMAL account? Can I have your straight ID? Is this your FAKE ID?
Hang on! My any ID and yours too is NORMAL (Being gay is normal), I am not straight so I don’t have such STRAIGHT ID but you may be asking for my Family ID and lastly, I am Being Real & honest here NOT FAKE. Are you??

Let’s clear some concepts to avoid identity crisis:

There are 2 types of profile IN GAY INTERNET LANGUAGE…one is FAKE and other is REAL!! I found these words offensive and insulting. What is Real & Fake..why such dual life atleast on social networking? ..I accept a closet can’t do all on his FAMILY ID (REAL)…But atleast why to call FAKE to the ID in which you are not with your exact identity but express your GENUINE FEELINGS??

I will distinguish your concepts about Facebook Profile/ID:

1) FAKE ID:
What’s that??
FAKE is something which is NOT TRUE. FAKE ID is the profile where People FAKE their identity. When it comes to FAKE name or picture, I can give clean chit as our country is still not on well terms with homosexuality. But you’ll be known as FAKE if you share your FALSE feelings and thoughts, That’s FAKE for me!
So no name or picture but when you FAKE your thoughts you will have a FAKE ID. So you have a FAKE ID?? Your thoughts are Genuine and Real?

So who is FAKE here: Those who portray themselves something different than they are in reality. 

2) REAL ID:
What’s REAL??
REAL is something which is TRUE. REAL ID is the profile where People are with their REAL identity Real Name, Real Picture of yourself, Real thought on EVERYTHING (Including Sexual Orientation especially when you fill up ‘’Interested in : Women’’ on fb) 

So many of you are not being REAL on REAL ID when it comes to sexuality which really makes a big difference there, You just pretend to be a straight which YOU ARE NOT!! SO YOU BEING FAKE…AND THAT MAKE YOUR REAL ID FAKE!! :D funny! Isn’t it?
So is there anyone who got REAL ID here??

So who are REAL here: Those who express themselves openly without caring what will people think about their feelings and expressions on EVERY SINGLE THING. Very Few Are Here.

So if you are not FAKE and not REAL too then what you are…?

Here you are….

Actual ID/Family ID: 

It’s the profile which shows your actual identity mostly with REAL NAME & PICTURES. Mostly you came on facebook with this ID and with your real life friends and family members, relatives are added. Here there is no case of REAL OR FAKE! Family ID is Family ID, BE FAKE OR REAL!

Other ID/Gay Friendly ID:

It’s the profile which DOES NOT SHOW your actual identity in terms of REAL NAME & PICTURES But Your thoughts are REAL, pure and genuine which are in your mind and for any reason you are not able to express them on your Family ID.
Here you express your gay life openly either in good way or bad (choice is yours). But it’s more about your sexual orientation.

So which are the PERFECT TERMS/NAMES for THESE ACCOUNTS?

Straight ID? – NO! By ANY WAY.. “YOU ARE NOT STRAIGHT”

PERFECT NAME is OTHER ACCOUNT for our GAY FRIENDLY ID. Don’t call it FAKE and don’t allow people to call it FAKE, If you are not FAKE!! 

PERFECT NAME is ACTUAL ACCOUNT for our FAMILY ID. Don’t call it REAL and don’t allow people to call it REAL Cuz’ it’s always bad to be and get recognized ‘what you are not’!! 

There are some people like me who got 2 IDs and Their both ID’s are Actual ID (as they are being what they are openly) and Gay Friendly too. 
Remember the words “ACTUAL” & “OTHER”. NOT “STRAIGHT’’ & “FAKE”

And please for welfare of Gay Man-Kind don’t say it NORMAL/ABNORMAL ACCOUNT, GAYS ARE NORMAL HUMAN BEING….MADE BY GOD, LOVED BY GOD TO DO ‘’NORMAL THINGS’’.

So when you talk to someone about this, please make sure you’ll use PROPER WORDS. :)


- Nakshatra